Friends, I don't need anymore...

"We were on a break!"

Do you remember this famous dialogue from the series? Can friends be on a break too?

My mother once said that nothing in excess is good; everything, including friendships, should be limited. We were too young to understand this at the time, but now that we are adults, we have seen many things in life, and yes, who here has not been betrayed by a friend? If you haven't, you are one lucky person in the world :)

Since school times, I have been an extrovert, or you can say ambivert as my best friend says. It was my first day in 7th grade, and I had been transferred to a new school. She invited me to have lunch with her and her friends, and we discovered that we are both allergic to gluten, and that's how we became friends, imagine my allergy got lucky for me.

I met Isha, an amazing friend, through her, and then I got two more Krati and Pooja at our school. We five have been together since elementary school, and it's not like we've never fought! It's just after every fight, we still called each other before going to bed and apologised, today after almost 10 years - we are still together! That's what a friendship is, isn't it, it doesn't have breaks. If your friend is going through a breakup ,you need to pick her call at 2 am just to hear how much she hates him; if your friend got that dream job, you are proud! It is when she got her writing published on a website, you are excited more than her! It's just being there for one another.

You might be thinking that this article isn't about toxic friendships, but it is. I learned about such people a long time ago, but I first witnessed it outside of my country. One of my sisters explained to me that adjusting to a new country is difficult, and there will be many people you believe you can trust but cannot! I should have paid attention to her advice. But, in any case, everyone has their own life experiences.

Coming to a new country made me anxious and nervous for several months, despite making some good friends and having my cousins and some of my family here. I trusted someone and they betrayed me. It's fine that they lied to me; what isn't okay is why they pretended to be someone they weren't ; in life, I have always believed that one should never trust, but there are people in life who I am blessed to have because I trusted them.

Yeah! Toxic friends will treat you as if you are important to them, but they will only do what is best for them. I am not saying that one should not think about their happiness, but at the same time, don't let others suffer because of your happiness! Friends who constantly act as if they are the victim and that everything has gone wrong for them are toxic because they will eventually only think that they are hurt, and believe me, they will not even realise that they did something wrong.

Those friends who think it's okay to make you think about something you didn't do, those who rely on you but you can't rely on them, those who will talk shit about your other friends for no reason, those who will play the victim card, those who will blame you for every situation in their life, and those who will always get hurt because of you are toxic for you - they are the friends you don't need!

And you'll keep thinking about them, wondering if you did something wrong with them, if you should have been more mature. But the thing is, those people will go around and talk about you the same way they talk about other people in front of you, so do you think it is worth wasting your time thinking about such people, who bring up the past every single time, who just complicate the friendship to the point where you want to be away from them and need a BREAK!

Yes, I can proudly say that I am blessed to have those four people in my life to whom I can confide at any time of day and they will support me. Despite being in another county, they were there when I needed them the most and you know what, friendship isn't about talking at 3 a.m. or helping financially; it's about listening, understanding, and being present. Gaurvi, you inspire me every day of my life; when people here say about one of my other friends, "Oh, she's your best friend," I simply deny it by stating that my BFF lives in India! Thank you for all of your peppy talks and sound advice. I simply love you, and I am grateful for your presence in my life. Jyada ho gaya na koi nahi apne blog mein mention kar mera blog thodha promote kar yaar mujhe!

Pooja, Krati, and Isha I have not forgotten you, and I love you as well...thank you for always being on time for a zoom call 😂, and for calling at the right time. I mean, thank you for simply being you!

So our advice for you all is - Make good friends and stay away from those who make you feel unwanted, low, and possibly are toxic in a relationship.

"Because a promise between friends means never having to give a reason."