Is it a yes or a no?

Quoted by Paulo Coelho, " If you must say Yes, say it with an open heart & if you must say No, say it without fear!"

What is in-between?

There are many people here who are unsure if they want to go ahead or not, and it's okay sometimes if they want to take the time or are not ready to decide, the problem is when their hesitant nature affects others around them. Thinking that it is about relationships? My answer is yes & no!

There are moments when we are unsure if we should pursue an opportunity, or if we can handle the responsibilities or if the decision will be correct or not! CONFUSION becomes our state of mind.

People say the inner feelings give you the right answer, whether it's a yes or a no! Trust your instincts...they rarely let you down.

But, in my opinion, when you are confused, manage your behaviour; if you are unsure, say so, walk away, and don't let other people suffer because of you. Or sit with yourself to figure out what you're feeling! Sitting with yourself helps you discover who you are and whether you are prepared for what is to come, but is it that simple?

No, it isn't. People are terrified of being alone, particularly today's age, who are afraid of understanding themselves since they have constructed an amazing world on social media and find it difficult to comprehend what they want.

This year, I felt like trusting, letting go of all my concerns, meeting new people, making some exciting new friends, and trying what everyone talks about being in a relationship! However, it turned out to be incredible; I met fantastic people this year, made some new friends, met great coworkers who taught me various things, learnt how to handle various responsibilities together, and sought out incredible opportunities. Nonetheless, this year I had my trust broken, cried alone, and sat with myself to figure out why I needed something so much that I cried.

That made me realize that it's not the love that hurts, but the broken trust. It's not the people that hurt you; it's your memories of them. This can all be resolved if one of us simply apologises, but I think we humans are not yet strong enough to put our egos aside and accept the mistake in order to save that friendship or relationship.

Or maybe I am wrong, maybe some people go that extra mile for you just to have you around them. Well! I met both kinds of people this year. Sometime back, I was reading this amazing book The Archer by Paulo Coelho, it made me understand it's not an easy task to just learn something and do it. It takes time and practice to become the perfect version of yourselves.

So, it's not really about the individuals you're seeking answers from; it's about you deciding whether it's a yes or no, and once you're sure, those emotions and sentiments will no longer hurt, and you'll be able to take a position and make a solid decision. Confusion will no longer be your state of mind; you will be responsible for your actions. This year taught me that no one around me has enough power to make decisions for me, and no one has the authority to take that power away from me.

As a result, whether it's career, love, friendship, or family, you always have the option to say Yes or No. Don't wait for others' decisions; make your own and, as my brother says, leave the rest to destiny and luck. He has a very interesting perspective on that subject, which I shall discuss in my next blog.

And for the record, you also know the answer if he/she likes you or not; it's you who is not yet ready to accept that, and I can understand it takes a lot of time. But when it happens and you certainly reach a decision, you will be the best version of yourself.

So, instead of dwelling on your inability to reach a conclusion, simply sit with yourself and think for yourself, and there you will find your answer.

Remember, there is no in-between!

One more blog coming before this year ends, stay tuned!