Someone once told me...

Recently, I noticed that many people often begin their stories with the phrase "You know someone once told me..." This got me thinking, who is that someone? Is it you, someone you'd rather not mention, a best friend, a teacher you used to dislike, a family member, an Instagram reel, your favourite idol, a line from a movie, or perhaps a beloved series?

But you know what, it doesn't matter who that someone is. What truly matters is the advice they shared and the impact it had on us.

"You know someone once told me, it's okay to not be okay. It's okay to experience a whirlwind of emotions, to feel confused, to be a little crazy, to love, to trust, to make mistakes, to accept the things beyond your control—it's all okay. And most importantly, I'm here for you, it's okay!"

We receive similar pieces of advice every day, yet many of us choose to present the opposite of our true selves. We pretend to be strong, emotionless, and always happy, even when we're hurting or feeling frustrated.

But why? Why do we feel the need to pretend we're okay when we're not? Perhaps it's because we seek approval from others, trying to conform to the expectations of our surroundings and social media platforms like Instagram and TikTok.

I remember a few months back; I was sharing sad stories on Instagram, and my friends questioned me, saying, "Why do you want to show them that they matter? Just move on and show how happy you are." It's ironic that even when we're crying on our pillows, we're expected to portray happiness. I wonder, how is this helping us?

Is it wrong to show our vulnerability, to express sadness, frustration, or heartbreak? Some may say yes, fearing that it'll make us appear weak and subject us to teasing. On the other hand, some might agree, but...

I believe that sharing sad stories on Instagram doesn't change who we are at our core. Being sad or lost doesn't make us any less efficient at work, and feeling depressed doesn't mean we won't find happiness again. Tears don't imply a permanent absence of smiles, and a broken heart can heal with time.

My mom always emphasises the importance of trust. She says, "You need to trust people because, without trust, you cannot truly be happy or be yourself with them. Constantly being on high alert, fearing that they will betray your trust, will only hinder your relationships." Last year, I experienced heartbreak and expressed my doubts to my mom, stating that people always break trust and lie. I suggested it might be better to remain cautious instead of trusting others.

In response, she wisely pointed out that not everyone will break your heart. She reminded me of the people I trust wholeheartedly—my brother, best friends, and favourite cousin—and how I share everything with them because of that trust. She assured me that while we may encounter those who break our trust, there will also be a multitude of people who will stand by us, safeguarding both our trust and our heart.

So, my friends, life will always have its share of ups and downs, a balance of sadness and happiness. But remember, there will always be someone who will tell you, "It's okay."

And later, you can share your wisdom with others, saying, "Someone once told me..."